Communicating vs. Fearful: How would you describe your relationship?

We can discuss things, and we can disagree and be OK.

Or

I’m scared of how my partner will react when we disagree.

While people are often drawn together because they have a lot in common, no two people agree on everything all the time.  It’s part of what makes us individuals.  But the individuals that make up the couple need to know how to communicate in a way that says I’m willing to listen and hear your point of view even if I don’t agree.  When that doesn’t happen, at its best…there is a lack of joy and fun in the relationship…and its worst, there is fear.  Fear of what the other person will think, say, or even do.  If you are in a relationship and feel you have to guard what you say to your partner, it might be fear that you are feeling.  Maybe you fear the person would laugh at you.  Maybe you fear the person would leave you.  Sometimes when a relationship jumps to being physical, the couple doesn’t take the time to work on the verbal.  When the initial thrill of the physical wears off, there might not be much left.  It might not be a healthy relationship.  And if it’s fear that is left…the relationship might even be dangerous.

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Trusting vs. Jealous: How would you describe your relationship?

Which describes your relationship:

  • My partner trusts me to make good choices and be true to our relationship.
  • My partner doesn’t like me to have male friends or sometimes even say nice things about other guys. He wants to know where I am and who I am with all the time.

Jealousy is rooted in insecurity and fear of abandonment. Jealous people try to control their partners so they won’t find someone better and leave.  A jealous partner may check your phone not like your friends, want you for himself, or be suspicious.

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Respectful vs. Critical: How would you describe your relationship?

Which describes your relationship:

  • When I share my opinion, my partner listens and tries to understand.
  • When I share my opinion, my partner criticizes me.

Does what you say turn into an argument unless you give in or just agree?  If you think you need to be careful what you say or if you have just given up speaking your mind, then you may be in a critical relationship.

According to Psychology Today, criticism is destructive to relationships when it is:

  • About personality or character, rather than behavior.
  • Filled with blame.
  • Not focused on improvement.
  • Based on only one “right way” to do things.
  • Belittling.

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Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201212/one-thing-will-ruin-perfectly-good-relationship

 

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