Approachable vs. Controlling

I can easily tell my partner when I’m feeling upset or hurt.

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My partner is possessive and controlling.

 

Here is a good question to ask yourself:  do you feel you need to hide things from your partner?  In a healthy relationship, there might be disagreements.  However, each partner should feel that they can still talk about their own feelings and opinions without fear.  We’ve talked a little in past blogs about some aspects of control (stalking; keeping track of your phone; managing your friendships with others, etc.).  But, a partner’s possessiveness and control can even intimidate what you are willing to share and express about how you feel.

It might be about sex.  You may not even want to be in a sexual relationship.  You may have tried to communicate this, but your partner isn’t listening.

It could be about a pregnancy or abortion.  While some women are initially upset about being pregnant, it is sometimes due to lack of support they feel from their partner.  A partner may even be pressuring an abortion.

If you are concerned that you may be facing pressure – whether about sex or abortion, we have free services that may help.

We offer free pregnancy tests, free STD testing, and free information on abortion procedures and risks.  Call or text us: 443.333.8856.

 

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Trusting vs. Jealous: How would you describe your relationship?

Which describes your relationship:

  • My partner trusts me to make good choices and be true to our relationship.
  • My partner doesn’t like me to have male friends or sometimes even say nice things about other guys. He wants to know where I am and who I am with all the time.

Jealousy is rooted in insecurity and fear of abandonment. Jealous people try to control their partners so they won’t find someone better and leave.  A jealous partner may check your phone not like your friends, want you for himself, or be suspicious.

If you would like more information about healthy & unhealthy relationships, text us: 443.333.8856.  We can offer free and confidential services including pregnancy tests, STD/STI testing, and information on abortion procedures, abortion risks, and abortion alternatives.  We also have a Life Sense class on relationships: www.lifesenseclasses.org.

 

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Respectful vs. Critical: How would you describe your relationship?

Which describes your relationship:

  • When I share my opinion, my partner listens and tries to understand.
  • When I share my opinion, my partner criticizes me.

Does what you say turn into an argument unless you give in or just agree?  If you think you need to be careful what you say or if you have just given up speaking your mind, then you may be in a critical relationship.

According to Psychology Today, criticism is destructive to relationships when it is:

  • About personality or character, rather than behavior.
  • Filled with blame.
  • Not focused on improvement.
  • Based on only one “right way” to do things.
  • Belittling.

If you would like more information about healthy & unhealthy relationships, text us: 443.333.8856.  We can offer free and confidential services including pregnancy tests, STD/STI testing, and information on abortion procedures, abortion risks, and abortion alternatives.  We also have a Life Sense class on relationships: www.lifesenseclasses.org.

Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201212/one-thing-will-ruin-perfectly-good-relationship

 

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Healthy Relationship or Unhealthy Relationship?

How would you describe yours?  Start with these questions:

  • What is your gut telling you about your partner?
  • What do your friends and family say?
  • How does how he treats you differ from when you are alone to when others see you with him?

In the next few blogs, we’ll talk about what makes it healthy vs unhealthy.  If you are concerned about your relationship, text us: 443.333.8856.  We can offer free and confidential services including pregnancy tests, STD/STI testing, and information on abortion procedures, abortion risks, and abortion alternatives.  We also have a Life Sense class on relationships: www.lifesenseclasses.org.

 

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Is my relationship healthy?

Sometimes it is easy to recognize.  Sometimes not.  It might be hidden from others.  You might feel ashamed to tell someone. Or scared.

If your relationship makes you feel nervous, uncomfortable or scared, you could be experiencing Intimate Partner Violence.  The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says this can include four types of behavior and it is not just being hit by another person:

  • Physical violence is when a person hurts or tries to hurt a partner by hitting, kicking, or using another type of physical force.
  • Sexual violence is forcing or attempting to force a partner to take part in a sex act, sexual touching, or a non-physical sexual event (e.g., sexting) when the partner does not or cannot consent.
  • Psychological aggression is the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm another person mentally or emotionally and/or exert control over another person.
  • Stalking is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact by a partner that causes fear or concern for one’s own safety or the safety of someone close to the victim.

The CDC also says:

“Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online without consent. Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime.”

If you are concerned about an unhealthy relationship, text us at 443.333.8856.  We offer free and confidential help, such as:

  • A free pregnancy test and someone to talk to.
  • Referrals for help.
  • Free STD testing.
  • Information on abortion procedures, abortion risks, and abortion alternatives.

Reference:   https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teendatingviolence/fastfact.html

 

 

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